Narcissistic Personality Disorder – DSM-5

The Protective Parent Movement aka Family Court Critics as well as the Domestic Violence Community argue that Parental Alienation Disorder is not a listed in the DSM-5.

Here are sections of an article that appeared on January 5, 2015 on Parental Alienation Syndrome: Researchers Say the Struggle is Real.

by Amy Schaeffer

What drives a parental alienator? Most commonly, some type of narcissistic personality features, says Dr. Childress. According to Dr. Childress, parents who indoctrinate children into alienating the other parent are linked to narcissist borderline pathogenic parenting.

The symptoms of narcissism include: grandiosity, entitlement, absence of empathy, haughty, arrogant behavior and delusional belief systems. Although narcissistic personality disorder is listed in the DSM-5, which is considered to be the “Bible” of Psychiatric Disorders, so far Parental Alienation Disorder is not listed. Researchers expect that to soon change.

Researcher Amy Baker says that parents who try to alienate their child from the other parent subtlety, or not so subtletly gives a three-part message to the child.

“I am the only parent who loves you and you need me to feel good about yourself; the other parent is dangerous and unavailable; and pursuing a relationship with the other parent jeopardizes your relationship with me.”

[Read more]

Editor’s Note:

When reading the symptoms of narcissism below, you think if the protective moms in these cases we have followed over the years had these symptoms. On the list: April Meyer, Bonnie Rubenstein, Cindy Dumas, Dorothy Lee Barnett, Eileen Clark, Ellen Dever, Genevieve Kelley, Holly Ann Collins, Kelly Rutherford, Maya Tsimhoni and Sandra Rucki. Parental Alienation Disorder “PA” may not yet be in the DSM-5, but these moms certainly appeared to have most of these symptoms.

  • grandiosity
  • entitlement
  • absence of empathy
  • haughty
  • arrogant behavior
  • delusional belief system

In summary, it sounds like Parental Alienation = Narcissist Borderlline Pathogenic Parenting. So in the spirit of coparenting and moving forward in these cases, let’s not give these moms a license to alienate their kids.

7 Responses to Narcissistic Personality Disorder – DSM-5

  1. Nigel Miles says:

    Be careful and let’s analyse this situation empirically
    In the UK according to the petition promoted by the “Pilgrim Fathers”, associated with Families Need Fathers (all parents) in June 2015, 90% of all alienators are female; 350,000 couples separate annually; only 20% of the children are affected by PA of some level; (in addition to those already!) This affects approximately 4 million children and directly and indirectly 13.5 million children and first and second filial generation relatives (in the UK), these being parents, siblings and grandparents. So although like cancer, affecting slightly more….how much of our society openly speaks of this “new disease” but rarely is it ever discussed other than in a “moral context” rather than as it should be for child protection in a rational manner legally. As far as FNF declare only Mexico and Brazil criminalize PA with custodial sentences of up to 5 years per child. Oh dear our prisons would be seriously over “personed”. Perhaps we do not have enough custodial space for such criminal perpetrator’s and that is the reason why Anti Parental Alienation legislation is not on the statute books and has nothing to do with child protection.

    There is no legislation in the UK to protect the parity of full engaged rights to comprehensive parental responsibility across the first and second filial family members, and hence children have no protection from such “enslavement” by such psychological abuse. The Children and Family Act (2014) deliberately and abusively failed in legislative terms so that those females with rabid narcissistic and feministic tendencies would not be put off standing as Parliamentary candidates to balance more equal “genderisation” of our “Parliamentary representatives”; thereby increasing their ability to promote the continuing psychological child abusive intent, which is pernicious. Only the then Justice Secretary, Ken Clarke on declaration in the Family Justice Review in November 2012 literally had the gonads to promote such legislation. Sadly the rabid feminists who suffer from “umbilicitis” “detesticulated” him and had him removed by another male who was originally “gonad less”.

    Evidence is amounting in the USA and Canadian legislature for such Anti-PA and Child Protection. Legislation to combine and be enacted sooner rather than later. It will drift across “the pond” but we HAVE TO SEE PA AS A DIRECT FORM OF PSYCHOLOGICAL CHILD ABUSE AND MAKE CRIMINAL TO THE GREATEST EFFECT upon those who promote it! Let’s hope that John Henning MP and Caroline Lucas MP will hold the magnet to draw it as the speed of light so that “NOT ONE MORE CHILD” will ever be abused and that such nefarious and pernicious hatred will be sentenced to history and seen for what it is and William and Barbara Wilberforce and Tom Clarkson can smile again for providing us with a moral and leagl precedent long overdue.

  2. Margo/Mom says:

    What I have found to be fascinating is the degree to which “camps” have built up to support some of these so-called “protective moms” in the more highly publicized cases (generally those involving abduction, although the Michigan case has not). On the one hand, there are people who have been pulled into the protective parent’s delusion–remaining steadfast in their insistence that both the targeted parent must be abusive, but also that Family Court’s routinely insist on placing children in abusive settings. Having conversed online with a number of these folks, I find it common that they are among the “walking wounded,” having either been raised in a high-conflict situation, or being the adult “loser” in such a situation. Hope Loudon and her sister have gone public regarding their dissatisfaction (or sense of victimization) with being placed with their father–although noticeable non-specific when it comes to identifying any specific cause for this.

    What I am wondering about is the degree to which many of these supporters are simply re-enacting their own earlier experiences–having gotten “stuck” in some pain that they are powerless to resolve without assistance.

    • Powerless to resolve because of the lack of fundamental protection legislation based on parity of full rights to comprehensive engagement by being parental responsibe. Without this NOTHING WILL CHANGE. All legislatures need this protocol!

    • underwatch says:

      Hi Margo,

      What I am wondering about is the degree to which many of these supporters are simply re-enacting their own earlier experiences–having gotten “stuck” in some pain that they are powerless to resolve without assistance.

      This has come up most of the cases. The “protective parents” come from an unfortunate upbringing that may include family violence or even abuse. When they get divorced, as you would say they are re-enacting the earlier experiences of their childhood on their former spouse. In these cases, the father usually comes from a very good family. The protective mom is unable to move forward after the divorce. She wants sole custody at any cost. I have seen the term “nurturer” used in many of these evaluations. In most of these cases, these protective moms are unable to act in the best interests of the child because they unfortunately have some short comings in this area.

  3. I very much appreciate your connection between NPD and parental alienation! I absolutely agree!! But… Neither moms nor dads should have the ability to do this to children.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: