I’ve been watching some of the first videos of Sean Goldman spending time with his new family in the United States with his natural father David Goldman and his family in the United States including grandparents and cousins. On the Today Show this morning, they showed footage of Sean Goldman playing basketball in a Orlando Hotel room with his family. What we see is what the majority of the Recovering Parents in the Family Abduction Community already know, parentally abducted children are resilient and adjust very quickly to their new home.
In the last several decades, we have followed many family abduction cases some as long as Sean Goldman. In most of these cases, most recovering parents report that in a few days to weeks, it as if the children were never gone. These parentally abducted children adjust very quickly in their new homes as they work toward merging the new life with the memories and experiences of their old life. It’s critical that the recovering and abducting parent families realize this and do everything possible to support the child. We know that David Goldman by his previous and current actions is going to everything possible in this regard.
Meanwhile on Brazilian Television, we see the grandmother and the step father holding a press conference saying that in their words, Sean told them that he wanted to stay in Brazil. Joao Paulo Lins e Silva is a family law attorney in Brazil and is certainly aware of the term “parental alienation syndrome”. Of course any 9 year old child under these circumstances would say he wanted to stay in his parentally kidnapped household. Again, shame on Joao Paulo, what he should be doing is coaching the child’s grandmother how saying that is really a form of parental alienation since it is clearly wrong for the grandmother to say this is what I heard the child say. What parentally kidnapped or children from divorced parents are really saying is that I want a relationship with both of my families. What the grandmother really should be saying is that I love Sean and will be doing everything to support Sean in his new home. What I can’t understand is where is Sergio Tostes and why isn’t he giving this advice to his clients?
I’ve also heard most of the media interview their own child psychiatrists about the reunification. Most of these psychiatrists or psychologists are not familiar with this issue of family abduction. What I would like to see is the media interview some of the leading psychologists and psychiatrists in the country that have direct knowledge.
Again, the focus on this case should now be on supporting the reunification of this father and son. Eventually, we would like to see both the Brazilian step father and maternal grandmother “Parent-Up”!